Bah, Humbug! (The Miserable)

Posted: December 16, 2013 in Attitude, Holidays, LGBT, Perspective


Charles Dickens “A Christmas Carol” is a staple for the holiday season.  The story of a cold hearted, tight-fisted, greedy individual, who was known for his distaste for holiday giving, or holiday recognition for that matter.   In a time when jobs were scarce (as is now), his employees did whatever they were expected, as to retain their employment, taking the brunt of Scrooge’s miserable disposition.   Bob Cratchit, a faithful employee who worked long hours at a very low pay, could barely put food on the table for his hungry family.   The story goes on to say he was visited by three spirits, The Ghost of Christmas past, the Ghost of Christmas present, and the Ghost of Christmas future, and we know the outcome of the rest of the story. 

If anyone had a reason to have a bad attitude, it was Bob Cratchit, as it was he and his family that felt the desperation and the cruel nature of a man who could have made a difference in their situation.


The Miserable – 

Have you ever met a person who had been ‘stung’ by a situation in their life, and were absolutely ‘soured for life’ by their experiences?  We all have.  They are the pessimists, the ones that refuse to see the good in a situation.  They never see the receding waters, or the clearing skies, or the jewel of someone’s smile, never mind their own.  Of course, how would we know the experiences comprised of good things, without the ‘bad’ experiences in life as well?  The experiences of betrayal, abuse, abandonment, hunger, joblessness, infidelity, sickness and disease, drama and turmoil are not experiences humans are without.  But conversely, goodness, love, romance, care, concern, help, assistance, love of family and friends and the richness of joy is ours to experience as well.  Tiny Tim, the youngest child of Bob Cratchit, had that joyfully optimistic attitude that ‘the miserable’ can’t seem to stomach.  These tortured souls actually learn to court their misery and befriend others who wallow in their discontent, thus the term “misery loves company”.  Misery actually becomes their companion in the journey of their life, being drawn to a social network of like minded, miserable people, feeding off each-other.


In a Nutshell –

We all experience the stings that life brings to us, and it’s up to us just how we respond to them as to the outcome of a healthy life, verses a life of misery.  If we are to climb out our ‘frumpy’ attitude, one MUST think positively!  No, sometimes just being positive is not enough, and changes to our life must be addressed, not ignored.  We must be realistic, and not live in a dream world…but at the same time, not court the misery of disappointments and heartaches that are so very real.  Just as misery is real, it must be seen as temporal in order to make room for the joys that are yours to experience!  There are times of grief and hurt that must be processed before emerging to a life that is once again graced with happiness, friendship, and love.  A ‘bah humbug’ attitude is a cancer that will steal every wonderful experience from your life.  Court optimistic, not pessimistic ideals and you will find your rebound a very sweet experience indeed!!!




  1. Jim Glines says:

    Beautifully written, well thought out – and absolutely true. Misery is no fit companion for anyone at all, and those who are happy to create misery in others are most especially to be avoided. And the endless fight against having misery rule your life can be a titanic fight. Those who will not accept misery benefit from teaching others how to best avoid it and learn positive mindfulness. Thanks for sharing this!

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