2013 has swiftly come to a close and we are contemplating our new year. We are all starting from different points in life, different experience, different outlooks, but all have a fresh start at this New Year. I wanted to talk about the past, and the realities associated with it.
We are complex creatures, made up of intellect, body and human spirit (consciousness/soul). We experience life on so many levels…the roller coaster effect of ups and downs, situational, emotional and physical. Just think back on your life this past year. Friendships, loved ones, relationships lossed and gained. Situational changes…jobs, housing, sickness, income, living situations some within your control, but many not. Words spoken that you wish would not have escaped your tongue, regrets, or other situations you know you could have handled better.
Let’s understand something. You can only change a situation that YOU are in control of, even if it’s only an adjustment to your attitude. In this life you WILL be rained on! It all depends on the house you’ve built to protect you from the harmful elements of life. The Three Pigs, an old nursery rhyme we all know, has a simple but important lesson within it. If you are built on emotions alone, you are destined to experience a consistently vacillating life experience. Every day, different from the last, your heart and mind will never be at a state of rest. Conversely, if you think only with your head, you will miss the simple but beautiful experience our hearts and senses afford. But building a house of both mind and emotions, you will have built a happy and healthy ‘home’ for you to enjoy!
How are we to respond to our past? Let’s first understand that your past cannot be repeated with the very same outcome. Most experiences, whether terrible or euphoric, will never have the same result even if the situation is recreated. Lesson: Do not entertain repeating words or events and expect the same outcome. Most of life is fluid, and does not have the same rewards or disappointments attached. We are in constant flux with our emotions, but there are situations that you can control, that you know work for you! Finances, training, and goals can be had, but your mind must be aimed and honed to take you there…where you can experience the fruits thereof.
So remember, we cannot live in our pasts. Water under the bridge is just that. You cannot, or should not continue to look back. Just as books and articles have areas of reference, create one in your mind. It will point you to examples and outcomes of our choices and shortcomings, as well as happy times. Use your experience as a stepping stone, because now they are mere memories in your past. Start creating new memories, goals, relationships, and maintain a level of joy throughout this New Year! If you live in the past, you will miss every good and healthy choice you could be experiencing in the now. Remember, life is fluid, but experience will be your guide to continue healthy choices…making your life a successful one for YOU!
Happy New Year!